Even in the most amicable of divorces, Denver couples can often find it hard to get down to the nitty-gritty of creating a mutually-acceptable divorce settlement. Some feel intimidated when it comes time to discuss their desires, while others allow outside influences to get in the way. For those couples who truly want to keep their divorce away from litigation, trying divorce mediation is a good option.
A certified family law mediator recently wrote an article and discussed the reality that mediation does not automatically guarantee an easy divorce. However, a failed mediation taught her how to do her job better while also giving couples everywhere insight into the steps they should take when drafting an agreement, even if both parties decide that dissolving the marriage is the way to go.
First, it is essential that couples close down any shared accounts they may have. One reason for this is that a harmonious divorce can quickly turn caustic. Even if a couple believes that they can trust their soon-to-be former partner to act financially responsible, it’s best not to give anyone a reason to be tempted.
Time can be an enemy to some divorces. Taking too much time to deal with the divorce issues can end up creating more, especially if one party finds a new romantic partner. A new relationship may generate hostility or create a situation where the latest companion’s influence causes a shift in dynamics.
If children are involved, couples may want to draft a legally binding but temporary parenting plan that they can use to help establish parental obligations as the mediation takes place. Hiring a lawyer to take care of these steps is a smart way to protect one’s best interests.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Lessons Learned From Failed Divorce Mediation,” Diane L. Danois, Jan. 13, 2014