Families in Colorado facing tough decisions know that divorce is never easy. In addition to the financial impact, divorce can also take quite a psychological toll. This is especially true when kids are involved, who are bound to express a range of emotions from anger to sadness and everything in between. Ciancio Ciancio Brown, P.C. has seen the ramifications of divorce firsthand after providing legal support to couples during their time of need. That’s why we recommend the following tips when talking to kids about divorce and significant changes to the family.
Psychology Today suggests taking into account the reactions of children when broaching this sensitive topic. Every child is bound to react differently; if fighting has been rampant in the home, a child may express a sense of relief. However, if the news appears to come out of nowhere, the child in question is bound to feel dismay at the changing family dynamic. Accordingly, the child’s reaction to the news should dictate the tenor of the ensuing conversation.
Parents are also bound to experience significant sadness and anger at the dissolution of their marriage. Despite these feelings, maintaining a mature and rational demeanor when speaking with children is of paramount importance. This entails not blaming the other parent for family issues, while also assuming responsibility for what has occurred. That way children are less likely to place blame on themselves.
Also, parents should not attempt to shield younger or more sensitive children from bad news. Instead, parents are encouraged to inform the whole family at the same time. This will prevent one child from feeling that the need to serve as gate keeper for the information, or to protect the other children from ill feelings. Please visit our website to for information on how to ease the legal ramifications of divorce.