While most Colorado families look to the holidays as a time of celebration, if you are considering divorce you may not feel the same. Sadness and anger are common, and you may be in need of coping methods to help both you and your children deal with emotional turmoil. While you can’t do away with ill-feelings completely, there are steps you can take to better cope with divorce during the holiday season.
According to the Huffington Post, creating new family traditions for you and your kids to share can be a great way to get your minds off the new family dynamic. Altering your usual holiday schedule is just one way of doing this. If in the past your family enjoyed dinner later in the evening, try scheduling it earlier. You can also use the time to give back to the community by volunteering for a local charitable organization, which will instill the true spirit of the holidays in all involved.
While new traditions can be helpful, properly managing emotions is also important. Your kids are bound to have a lot of conflicted feelings about the situation, and you should allow them to express these without judgement. Let them know that it’s common to feel a sense of loss or sadness about divorce, but that they will experience joy again just as they had in the past.
Lastly, don’t forget to tend to your own emotional needs, especially when your children are busy with your former spouse. Writing in a journal is a good way to deal with negative emotions, while also allowing you to vent some frustration you may have about your divorce. You should also keep in contact with your children either via email or by phone if they are on an extended stay. Try to make the conversation meaningful and fun by devising little games, or discussing a beloved book or movie with them.
If you’re coping with divorce over the holidays, none of the above will make everything just fine, but know you’re not alone. There are many, many people in your shoes who are struggling with the exact same thing.