Your wedding day is closing in and you've yet to discuss the potential of creating a prenuptial agreement. It's your hope to talk this out with your partner, but you have concerns about bringing your thoughts and feelings to light.
It's natural to have these concerns, among many others, as asking for a prenuptial agreement is a big deal. Not only will it affect your partnership now and marriage in the future, but it could give the other individual reason to believe you're doubting your decision to tie the knot.
Here are some steps you can take to ask for a prenuptial agreement without causing a stir:
- Don't wait: The more time you give yourself, the easier it is to work through the many details of creating a prenuptial agreement. If you leave yourself several months or longer, it should be more than enough to work everything out. Conversely, with only a few weeks or days, your back is against the wall.
- Do it together: If you create a prenuptial agreement and ask your partner to sign it, you're putting them in an awkward position. They're not likely to feel comfortable putting pen to paper. But when you create it together, you have the opportunity to talk everything out and make decisions that benefit the both of you.
- Discuss your true feelings: If you try to hide anything from your partner, no matter how big or small, they'll see right through you. Bring all your true feelings to the table, as this gives your partner a better idea of where you're coming from.
- Talk about the benefits: Make it clear that there are many benefits of a prenuptial agreement, all of which work in favor of both individuals. This goes along with creating the agreement together.
- Take breaks along the way: You hope to sit down, discuss the creation of a prenuptial agreement and work everything out quickly and efficiently. This isn't likely to happen, as there are many details that require your attention. When you take breaks along the way, you give yourself the opportunity to gather your thoughts and avoid arguments before they start.
Now that you know how to ask for a prenuptial agreement, you can turn your attention to the legal process and the details you want to include. Doing so will allow you to create the right type of agreement before your big day, which could protect you in the event of a future divorce.