Divorcing is never something people plan for when they get married. When you decided to marry your spouse, you were dedicated entirely to making your marriage work. Even after they cheated on you with another person, you forgave them and decided to move forward with your marriage.
Now, you've found out that your spouse is seeing someone else again, and you've given up hope of making this work. You feel disrespected and hurt, which is expected. You just want to move on with your life.
What should you do to make this divorce easier on yourself? Here are four tips.
1. Keep evidence at hand
The first thing to do is to keep evidence on hand for your attorney. Though you do not need to prove fault to divorce your spouse, having proof of your spouse's behavior can help you negotiate and make a case for the assets, spousal support or custody arrangements that you want.
2. Don't get destructive
It may make you feel better to spread the word about your spouse's infidelity, but it's better if you avoid involving others in this issue. It can make you look bad in court if your ex collects evidence of harassing behavior.
3. Don't spend your assets without thought
Going through your assets by going on a spending spree to get back at your spouse is a bad idea. You should take note of your assets and give a list of them to your attorney. Take what you need to survive comfortably, but make sure you don't start taking more than 50% unless you want to be seen as vindictive. You may even end up having to pay some back if you're not cautious.
4. Avoid violence
The last thing you want is to have domestic violence on your record, so do your best to avoid attacking or harming your spouse. Don't break his or her things, and make sure that you're respectful of them and their property. This is one time when being the bigger person is going to be helpful to your case.
Your attorney would be happy to talk to you about more ways that you can protect yourself and make a good case for a greater portion of your assets when you divorce. This is an unfair situation, but with the right divorce support, you'll be able to get through it and move forward with your life.