A person who’s going through a divorce will experience many different feelings. Some people say that they feel like they’re on a roller coaster of emotions. Being prepared for this topsy-turvy and uncomfortable ride can help you to go through the divorce without as much stress as if you didn’t know what to expect.
While there is no certain order in which these feelings come, here are the more common ones that you might face when you walk away from a marriage.
Even if you’re the one who initiated the split, you might still feel angry sometimes. This is common when you think about the time you wasted in the marriage or when you realize how vastly different your life is going to be now. You may also be upset with the events that led to the divorce.
Sadness is common, even when you want the divorce. This is likely due to the realization that some of the traditions and things you’ve counted on in the past won’t happen now. Some people find it difficult to come home to an empty house or a house without another adult. They crave the camaraderie that comes with having another adult there to talk to.
Some people can’t accept that the marriage is over. Most often, this happens when they thought that everything was fine in the relationship and were surprised by the split. Denial can make it hard to come to terms with having to handle the legal aspects of the divorce.
Once you come to terms with the divorce, you may feel hopeful about your new life. While this is a good place to be, make sure that you don’t let it cloud the reality of the divorce terms. Don’t accept less than what you should or terms you can’t live with simply because you want to be done with it.
All of these emotions are normal, but you still need to use caution when you’re considering legal decisions while going through them. It’s possible that your emotions might cloud your judgement so it’s usually best to work with someone familiar with this process so they can help you to make logical decisions.